[Brian]

Should be pretty simple:

1. Set up sync on the iPad.
2. Sync with your server.
3. Use the "Send sync settings via email" button on the iPad to mail your sync settings to the Mac.
4. Open the mail on the Mac, click the link in the email.
5. Your Mac will connect to the sync server when asked which database your Mac should use, tell it to use the server's database instead of it's own.

Does that help?